Thank You To Our Friends Without Kids
The cold war with our friends who have no kids started well before Toby even arrived. It was surprising to me that stopped talking to us at all when we announced the pregnancy and even more surprising how many friends, those without kids, who simply stopped inviting us to nights out, pushed off invitations to come over or, again, dropped our friendship completely. I have to say that if I did this to any of my friends who had children before us, I'm sorry. This has to be the MOST heart-breaking parts of becoming parents. Losing friends, close friends, simply because they can't understand where we are at now.
That being said, we are incredibly thankful for our friends, especially those without kids, who have hung in with us as we learn what it's like to become parents and find balance with our newest family member. So here is a little shout out to them!
Thank you for giving us so many second chances. You came to our house to visit when we had a newborn that, frankly, we didn't know what to do with him and even when we were sleep deprived, grouchy and memorized by our new baby you stayed. And more importantly you came back. You endured the nights when Little Mitchell Man just wouldn't go to sleep, or didn't want to be held or had 5 teeth coming in at the same time. You came back. You let us try to bring him places again and again.
Thank you for inviting us to events, parties & nights out. Even when you knew our best of intentions were only that, and we would never come out that late or during the week or whatever, you invite and keep inviting us anyway. More than that, you understand that our life is no longer directed by two adults who, even when they don't feel good, will go out and can be flexible to whatever is going on. You understand that we have a new little leader of the family who, sometimes, is just not up for things - and it happens at the last minute or even on the way there. Thank you for the invite.
Thank you for doing more kid-friendly things. You really understand that as a working mom, I want to spend every minute outside of work, with Toby. You'll do brunch at a time and place that works around Toby's nap time. Trade gossiping over wine or coffee with gossiping over toys and playtime. Even though you know I don't expect every outing or hang out to be kid-friendly, I appreciate that you look for ways in include him in our plans.
That being said, we are incredibly thankful for our friends, especially those without kids, who have hung in with us as we learn what it's like to become parents and find balance with our newest family member. So here is a little shout out to them!
Thank you for giving us so many second chances. You came to our house to visit when we had a newborn that, frankly, we didn't know what to do with him and even when we were sleep deprived, grouchy and memorized by our new baby you stayed. And more importantly you came back. You endured the nights when Little Mitchell Man just wouldn't go to sleep, or didn't want to be held or had 5 teeth coming in at the same time. You came back. You let us try to bring him places again and again.
Thank you for inviting us to events, parties & nights out. Even when you knew our best of intentions were only that, and we would never come out that late or during the week or whatever, you invite and keep inviting us anyway. More than that, you understand that our life is no longer directed by two adults who, even when they don't feel good, will go out and can be flexible to whatever is going on. You understand that we have a new little leader of the family who, sometimes, is just not up for things - and it happens at the last minute or even on the way there. Thank you for the invite.
Thank you for doing more kid-friendly things. You really understand that as a working mom, I want to spend every minute outside of work, with Toby. You'll do brunch at a time and place that works around Toby's nap time. Trade gossiping over wine or coffee with gossiping over toys and playtime. Even though you know I don't expect every outing or hang out to be kid-friendly, I appreciate that you look for ways in include him in our plans.
Most importantly thank you for not giving up on us. Becoming a parent is such an incredible experience and even though it may not be for you right now or ever, we appreciate you supporting our life choices. Thank you for being a true friend.
OMG I love you! Even though I am far away know that I will always support you in everything.
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